I think for most people Facebook presents the opportunity to stay up-to-date with old friends, as well as new ones, and nothing more. That’s great and there’s certainly nothing wrong with it. But due to poor choices I’ve made in the past, I feel I need to be vigilant in guarding myself, my marriage, and my family, by not “networking” with my past. It’s simply a choice I’ve made for myself and no one else.
I will say, however, that yesterday’s press conference with Governor Sanford and his remark on how his affair began via innocent emails precipitated my desire to share the “why?” in my decision to forego Facebook.
A fellow blogger summed it up well…
“… the scary part of all of this is how subtle it is. A man can set up Covenant Eyes and have to report to those holding him accountable for the websites he has visited. But a woman visits facebook a hundred times a day, checking for a message from a certain someone, or checking to see if that person opened an account, or is tagged in a picture…
The point is that the Enemy is crafty. He always has been. And just when we think we’ve wrapped our brain around something he has already destroyed, in this case, the marriages in shambles because of internet pornography…he is working on something else.
Let’s not be blind to the subtle temptations that plague us in the most “innocent” of activities. Let’s not wake up five years from now with marriages in shambles because of emotional affairs or reconnections with long lost flings.”
Again, for most people, none of this is an issue — thank the Lord! But I’ve seen the destruction that affairs (which almost always begins innocently) and divorce can bring — and for me, Facebook or any other venue that may make me more vulnerable to temptation, simply isn’t worth it. Don’t get me wrong. Facebook is certainly not the “enemy” here… but as a Christ-follower, I’m well aware that I do have a viable enemy whose ONLY goals are to steal, kill and destroy. (John 10:10) And unfortunately, he can achieve those goals with very little breathing room if given the opportunity.
So, there’s the answer to those of you who’ve asked me why I don’t do Facebook. It’s simply a personal choice and certainly no reflection on the many who enjoy it.