Notice the title doesn’t say How to Balance Summer Months with Your Calling.
That’s because I’m still learning. But I hope by sharing my struggle we can face the fact that it’s not easy and that’s okay.
So how do we leverage the blazing days of summer for God’s glory?
I remember being a mom of young boys during the summer months while also teaching a Women’s Sunday School class.
I was intentional in spending time with the boys when they were out of school for the summer. Mostly because I just loved the pudding out of them (Southern saying) but also because I wanted them to have good memories of their childhood. Maybe it’s because I was an only child who was rarely around small children and never really babysat that I felt I had to be more intentional in making this happen. So at the beginning of summer, I made a plan.
One year, the boys and I wrote out a variety of chores and put them in a jar. They would draw one or two each day and if they completed them, they earned points to redeem for staying up later at night, a meal of their choice, or other fun things.
We went to the library, visited my grandparents in the next town over, adventured on unknown backroads, swam in a variety of public pools, and rarely missed an opportunity to stop by the local TCBY on the way home. Being the best mom that I knew to be for my boys was my second calling (with the first being a godly wife — or at least trying to be.)
But I was also called to teach.
When I became a Christ-follower at the age of 27, I couldn’t tell you where to find the book of John in the Bible. So even though I was growing in the Word by taking Precept, it still took me longer than most to prepare my lessons. I also liked to add a creative element here and there, which also took a lot of thought and prep time. Most of the year, I spent hours every day preparing for my class. I loved it! So when the boys were home for the summer, I had to figure out how to balance these two callings, while keeping the boys as my top priority. People always say that children grow up before we know it, and they’re right. Now the boys have families of their own and I couldn’t be prouder of them. {Glory to God!}
And yet, the struggle was real.
So I made a plan and adjusted a few things to help keep my priorities in order:
- I designated mornings and early afternoons to activities with the boys.
- Mid-afternoons were “free” time where they could play with Ninja Turtles or shoot hoops.
- During their free time, I studied.
- I incorporated videos by Kay Arthur and Wayne Barber of Precept Ministries into the Sunday School time to lighten my load.
Did it always go as planned? Nope. But I had three goals for my summer: Have meals ready for Brian when he got home, spend quality time with the boys, and to do my best in preparing the lessons, trusting the Lord to fill in the necessary gaps.
Nailing Down My Goals Helped to Keep My Priorities in Order
Today, I am blessed with grandchildren, two in town and two in Ohio {Pass me a tissue!} One of the reasons we chose our home almost two years ago was for the pool. We knew the grands would enjoy it, and they do. Few things in life bring more pleasure than grandchildren. Pure joy!
The Calling Has Morphed into Writing But the Struggle Remains
Yes, it’s different. I’m not directly responsible for raising the sweet munchkins and they don’t live with me but I still had to find a way to balance swim time with the calling to write. Sometimes I struggle to keep the energy level up in the afternoons so I need to work during the times when I have the most clarity.
So I Made Another Plan
- Reserve the mornings and all day Friday for writing.
- Keep the afternoons free for the kiddos to swim whenever they want to ride up.
- On the day I keep them each week, bring the swimsuits!
Obviously, this is a fluid schedule, open for changes at any time but having a little structure in place helps to keep my priorities in order. I want to be the grandmother God and I desire me to be, as well as the writer⏤in that order. {And yes, having Brian’s meals ready when he gets home from his now one-hour drive is still a priority. *wink*}
It’s not a perfect plan, never has been. But most mornings before I begin my day, I open my hands to the heavens, palms up.
This simple act reminds me that this day is not mine. It is God’s to do with what He wills. And His plans never fail.
I would love to learn from you. How do you juggle your priorities during the summer months?
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My schedule sounds much like yours. I’m trying to work the garden early and work around a retired husband. When he goes to care for his dad is usually my writing time. That time varies from day to day but it usually gives me a couple of hours. The struggle is real.
Yes it is, Gail! With this heat, I can’t imagine working in the garden any time but early. The suffocating heat has kept us from working on the tiny house during the evening hours when Brian gets home. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Having been a recipient of your teaching during these years, your impact was large! You are so inspiring as all I try to do is find things I can do inside!
Oh my goodness, you’re so sweet Becky. Those were wonderful years and we never know what God might do in the future. Neighborhood study, anyone? 🙂
I just love you…and I hope that even though I’m quiet around here… I’m here. xoxo
I love you too, Pru, and knowing you’re here delights me more than you could possibly know. 🙂
Great post. Good advice especially to young moms. I’m older and usually get house stuff done in the morning and write in the afternoon. Weekends are for the grandkids. 😉
It’s nice to have a little margin in our days, isn’t it? Love those grandkids days for sure. Thanks for taking the time to share. Blessings!
I need to work on this. My problem is too much unstructured time. My two children live a plane ride away, no grandchildren yet and no job. My husband and I travel a lot (I need to figure out a way to work in the car). I did Precepts too!
I get it, Kim. Even with the grands nearby I have more time than I’ve ever had before. It’s for this reason that I wanted to nail down my calling, what I felt God wanted me to do with “His” time. That was the first step in helping me to add more structure. I love that you did Precepts too. 🙂 P.S. Traveling with the husband is such a blessing! Thank you for sharing. 🙂
Ahhh. Great post on priorities and seeking balance. How I crave to spare others from the regret I experience from missing out on times with my boys. Thank you for a heartfelt post. However, that ice cream cone is creating a desire I may not resist!
You and me both, Charla — in every respect. Thank you for taking the time to share. Happy 4th!